Marriage Not Manage

The concept of marriage has suffered a lot of misconceptions in recent times. This is not surprising though as the family is the bedrock of the society and all societal actions have a way of distilling its effects on the relationships, families and marriages.

Marriage must be understood from the concept of its manufacturer. Marriage like every product was produced by a creator and it has its operating manual enshrined in the word of God. God is the creator of the marriage institution and no matter how society and governments have defined or redefined the institution, the plan of its original creation remains as it was from beginning.

Genesis 2:24-25:
“For the cause of marriage, a man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife and the two shall become one flesh, joined together under a covenant of marriage.”

Notice I said a covenant of marriage not a covenant of manage or a contract of marriage. Even if you have a contract of marriage, you must run your marriage by the covenants of marriage if you don’t want to manage your marriage!

Marriage was designed by God to be enjoyed and not endured. We read in the word of God that Adam and his wife, Eve, were joined together as one flesh (typical of what we do today at our marriage ceremonies) and they live happily ever after, being naked and not ashamed of their unique personalities, complementing and adapting to each other in the interest of the peace and harmony without any third party interference. The perfect state of honeymoon was so until the marriage covenant was broken and from then on they began to ‘manage’ their relationship, marriage and family. All manner of evil began to occur and the bedrock of their marriage was threatened.

Marriage is not designed to be managed; it is designed to be heaven on earth. Marriage is for the highest and purest expression of love on earth. Marriage is for companionship and compatibility. Marriage is for a covenant relationship based on trust and commitment between one man and one woman.  If we refuse to follow the prescribed manual for marriage - as Myles Munroe, rightly stated, when purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable - we will experience the abuse of the most beautiful gift of God to mankind: MARRIAGE & FAMILY.

Psalm 133:1-3 (paraphrased in context) 
How good and how pleasant it is for couples to dwell together unity

How wonderful it is, how pleasant, when couples live in harmony! Harmony so refreshing as the Morning Dew and God has pronounced His eternal blessings on the marriage institution!

It is good and pleasant when couples live together in peace! For there the Lord gives His blessings of life forever. Do you want peace in your relationship or marriage? Are you tired of managing that relationship or marriage? Yes it wasn’t like that from the beginning. It started very well but it turned sour.

Here is the wisdom tip: P.U.T. some Patience, Understanding and Tolerance into it; mix it with faith and prayers and watch how fast your peace and harmony will return into your relationship or marriage.

WISDOM: Don’t manage your marriage; Live by the covenant of marriage.