Ten Things Every Single Person Ought To Do

Deepen your relationship with God

Deepening your relationship does not mean using religion as a cover to hide from yourself. This won’t work. ‘You cannot run from you; you have to deal with you’. The emphasis is “relationship”. 

You can’t have a healthy relationship with people if you don’t have a relationship with God. You must come to a point in your walk with God where you are completely honest with God – a relationship that is open, true, loving, and continuous as you walk through different stages of life in spite of mistakes you have made. Relationship skills are critical for people. 

Whereas Gods love for you is not ‘performance based’ you don’t take God’s love for granted. You must come to a place where your faith in God does not fluctuate in spite of your feelings. Sometimes you feel like coming to church, praying studying your bible, etc., but sometimes you don’t feel so. 

You must come to a point that you can believe that God loves you even with your weaknesses; and that’s how we have to love people, because people have weaknesses, so you can’t just love based on performance. You must allow God to come into all the rooms of your life. As long as you treat God as company, you cannot have a loving long-term relationship with him. 

You will keep locking him out of areas only he can clean when you want to want everything perfected before he can go through the rooms. The key is honest communication. Prayer becomes easy when it becomes an honest communication. When you deepen your relationship with God, your faith becomes significant, not something you pick on Sunday mornings like your bible and take to church; you are no longer running around thirsting for someone to love you – not ravenous for someone to talk or relate with you.

Deepening your relationship with God helps you to understand what relationship is; so that you can relate properly with other people, because you will always discover things about people you don’t like.  

    

Biblically single people should have deeper relationships with God (1 Corinthians 7:34)

Seek a whole life as a single person

To be single doesn’t mean to be incomplete. You are a whole person. It is difficult to couple with someone who is deficit, because that person will cling too tight, and no matter how strong you are, you can’t carry someone forever.  Most single people don’t live - the just wait… and when nothing happens, they get frustrated. Stop waiting on somebody. People are attracted to people who are busy living. Nobody is attracted to a ‘corpse’.

A whole means different things to different people – doing something that gives you a sense of fulfillment and completeness. Live now, every day God gives you is a gift.

Develop interest beyond home, school, church and work

These interests make you an interesting person - gives you things to talk about. Develop interests in politics, sports, world affairs life, government, research, music etc. Go outside your little circle. Try new things, take up a hobby, learn a sport, go back to school… just broaden your life -   life has a lot to offer. Life is a fleeting vapour. Maximize the moment.

Exercises your body and your mind

Exercise of the body and mind is not just for appearance, but for longevity, stress management for good sleep and general self-enjoyment. Your body is the house you are going to live in till you die, so keep it fit and healthy.

Read! Read!! Read!!! Not just your bible, but other good books and materials.

Avoid people who seek to control and silence your personality

Domineering people who manipulate you and won’t let you breathe – claustrophobic relationships. It is not limited to marriage relationships alone but all kinds: son to mother, peers and friends etc. People who want you to live by their opinions - Avoid them

Respect marriage but don’t worship it

Give space to married people. Don’t be all up in their face. Conduct yourself properly and don’t cross certain lines.

If you worship the idea of being married, when you get married you might be disappointed because marriage will eventually fall short of your expectation and you will want to quit.

Live and budget within your means

When you are in debt it affects everything about you because you need help - your personality contentment, health. Leaving within your means help you make intelligent decisions. Don’t make decisions based on your excesses so that you would not need a messiah

Set a guard on your heart

Philippians 4:7, Col 3:15. Don’t be easily carried away by every complement, every nice gesture - you get into fantasy so easily. Don’t allow yourself to get intoxicated easily with anything.  Be sober, be vigilant! Heartbreaks are results of those who did not properly guard their hearts. In order to guard your heart, you must value yourself. Out of your heart flows the issues your heart. Don’t let your hearts to be easily carried away. Talk to God to help you Guard your heart and help you set your affections in the right direction.

Managing sexual appetite is an acquired behavior

People have different levels of appetite. We don’t all have the same appetite for food or other things. Managing sexual appetite is a struggle for some people. If you have a large appetite, there are situations you must avoid. You know yourself better and you must manage your appetite accordingly to keep yourself out of trouble. Managing takes effort and longevity and is no easy. It’s an on-going process. Managing your appetite depends on who you are, what your past was, and what your struggles are.

Try not to make decisions that complicate your life

You can avoid having a baby outside wedlock, you can avoid a divorce, and you can avoid just quitting your job without a plan. Keep your life simple as a single person. Try not to make decisions that complicate your life. Stop putting yourself in situations to see if you can get out of them. Don’t let your good heart put you in trouble.

What causes the greatest attraction between people beyond visuals which is superficial?

It is when someone sees something in you which you don’t see in yourself  and the way they look at you makes you feel special and you need to see them look at you because you long to see what they see when they look at you.

If you could only see in yourself what you are so fascinated in other people seeing, you will begin to discover through your own eyes the gift that God has in you.

If you see yourself as a giant killer, other will soon start seeing you so. You have to believe that there is something in you so valuable that anybody that rejects you has robbed him/herself.

There are people who look extremely attractive on the outside but feel like nothing inside.

You must understand that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You created in the image and likeness of God, created in Christ unto good works

You don’t need someone to make you feel special. You are special. There will never ever be another YOU. You are one of a Kind. When God made you he broke the mold. They can make your clone, but it can’t be you. You must know this.

Thank God for your uniqueness – There’s a life force in you, there’s power in you there are talents in you, there’s is grace in you, and there is strength in you, there’s is power in you

Yes, you are single, but you are whole - Means you will be an asset to anybody. You add something to any room you walk into, you make a difference on any job you take, and anybody you ever would decide to love would be made better because you added something to them….

|Culled from a sermon by Bishop T. D. Jakes